Thursday, 31 March 2016

When to let go of a relationship

The wise know when it is time to move on
We value relationships more so the ones we have invested our time, emotions and energy in. We would love these relationships to go on forever. The reality is however different, sometimes we have to let go some relationships in order to move on. Staying in a challenging relationship is brave, but letting go and moving on when necessary makes us stronger and happier.

How and when do we decide that it is time to let go and move on? Below are guidelines on when to let go.

Someone expects you to be who you are not.
Remember you can never be a copy of someone and be happy. Ephesians 20:10 "For we are his workmanship, created in Jesus for his good works which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them."
Trying to walk in contrary to what we have been created and called for is a sure way of living in sorrow and misery.

If you cannot trust someone any more or promises are broken however small with trivial excuses, it is time to let go. Relationships are build on mutual trust, mistrust is poisonous to any relationship.

Your worth is not appreciated
If you find yourself in a relationship where you have to continuously prove your worth in order to earn respect, then my friend it time to walk away. Walk away and never look back.

Your opinion does not matter
How? If your opinion does not matter how are you going to build this relationship? Unless you do not have a care in the world how you would like your relationship to be, which I doubt, you have to let it be. A health relationship is build on sharing and helping each other at all times.

Sacrificing your happiness for theirs 
Once in a while we have to make compromises, but not at the expense of our happiness. Relationships are about sharing, accommodating one another an bringing happiness to each other. If you are not happy, you are in the wrong place. Move on.

Disengaging from your faith and family
Life is all about our faith in God and our family comes second. If you are in a relationships that is disengaging you from these two great values, it is time you re-evaluated what is important in your life. If there are people who can never get tired of who you are and will always accommodate you a all times, it is God and your family. Hold them close unless of course, your family is the unhealthy relationship we are talking about.

No progress.
Good relationships give us energy to grow and become a better us. We are propelled to growth and we have the support we need, however unhealthy relationships drain up our energy. We are continuously pumping more energy to sustain our relationship, consequently our dreams are put on hold. We loose our identity and focus.Furthermore we do not get the support we need to progress, we are continuously put down or our ideas are belittled  to an extent that they never see the light of the day.

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The wise know when it is time to move on - Evaline Nyambati